Saturday, April 4, 2009
I saw this article in Reader's Digest. It's by Helen Fisher.
Who Loves You?
As a biological anthropologist, I've spent 30 years trying to understand human nature- what love is; why we marry, divorce and remarry; and why we choose the partners that we do.
I began to think that we have a biological pull to certain people. I developed a questionnaire designed to measure personality traits associated with certain hormones.
Explorers:
-Dopamine-rich
-highly curious
-creative
-love novelty and risks
-tend to be spontaneous and flexible
Builders:
-seratonin-rich
-social
-fond of rules and facts
-cautious but not fearful
-very good at managing people and building community
Directors:
-express testosterone traits
-decisive
-analytical
-tough-minded
-competitive
-understand "rule-based" systems from mechanics to music
Negotiators:
-high-oestrogen type
-see big picture
-imaginative
-intuitive
-nurturing
-good with people and words
We are all a mix of all four personalities, but most of us express predominantly two. Working with the internet dating site chemistry.com, I tested seven million people in 40 countries. When I looked at whom men and women chose to meet, I found nature's patterns:
Explorers tend to gravitate towards Explorers. Builders gravitate to Builders. But Directors go for Negotiators, and Negotiators are attracted to Directors.
We can override biology, but nature plays a role in whom we love. These days, as both sexes are freer to choose partners for themselves, we are entering an age when love can truly bloom.
Hmm interesting huh? (: Looking at this I am predominantly Explorer and Negotiator. Negotiator mostly I guess. Haha. Which category dyou all belong to?
The reason grandparents and children get along so well is really quite simple: They have a common enemy.
-Sam Levenson Labels: Why him? Why her?
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